other's face tells about the person. But there is several levels of
face with its beauty and awfulness
face which shows joy and sorrow...
time to discover another face, through look and silence,
means taking time to discover, rediscover the person...
Language of word
words exchanged, by listening to another, it is possible to express
our joy and sorrow, desire and sufferings. Word is the cement of love
when it introduces truth and confidence. It is also a place of
equilibrium. When, looking for truth, I share my difference I stand
as a person in front of a person. The speaking subject is subject.
Without words it becomes object. Silence, absence of talks, consuming
time, run that limits our true encounters are often sources of
crisis. Non spoken words are an opening to jail, painful and
destructive rancour, crisis (see couples'
hand, caress of the face of the other, tenderness of his presence,
her smile, are steps to the discovery of the other as a person in
Time of tenderness
is different than the drunkenness of the encounter. It's a time of
taming and equilibrium. It is time of 'attention to the other, shared
peace. Tenderness is a preparation and attention to the other in its
difference. It is respect of what is escaping me and attracting me in
the same time. Tenderness mixed with speech is a place of peace and
drunkenness but also place for growth and attention. Comprehension
and encounter brought to its summit. But it can also be a place of
slavery and impulses.
Sexuality gets its breadth and its joy
when dialogue is clear and source of a true encounter. But this
encounter supposes respect of time, time of taming and active mutual
It is normal that
this quality of relation is not attained at the beginning. Without
doubt it also needs fundamentally a reciprocal engagement, instituted
To escape to the
slavery of its
have to be listening to the other before all and this listening needs
decentering, loss of your own power which leaves place to the other
as a person. Time, distance and expression of these different
languages (words, look, tenderness) are at the service of another
kind of encounter, nicer and bigger ...