A good image :
Each one is a the
top of a tower, made of pride and self protection :
above, is sending arrows, non-dialogue words.
True dialogue and
more over forgiveness, means going down its tower, go up for a short
time in the other's taower and come back and humbly decide to
To forgive is to
find an humble way of accepting its lack of love and return both on a
of hearts and bodies in peace and serenity is made of mutual
confidence. Confidence expresses itself namely in exposition of heart
and body. To denude oneself in front of the other, in real or in
words, means exposing your face, give your heart and your body in
hope of a return. We can dream that the other and ourselves is always
up to this type of confidence. But we are faced with our own weakness
and egoism. Is it thus a dead-end ?
No, if we accept to
be true and ask the other for help. To say : "I need you, you know my
weaknesses, help me" allows the other to love us as we are and show a
confidence in him. Its also allowing him to be true with his own
confidence is not our weaknesses but our pride, judgement and
Christians have a
text which shows it well : When Christ washes the feet of its
disciples while he should be their master he says "I ask you to do
the same", to appear humble and have mutual respect. Christians base
their confidence not on the fact that they might be tougher than
others but on this certitude that brothers can help, heal and give
them access to true love.
To be human, we'll
have to act the same for the other... More and more we can learn how
to love, not on the condition that the other does not deceive us but
freely, and up to giving its own life for the other.
Our we able to
wash each other's feet ?
To have confidence,
to denude and expose ourselves is like kneeling in front of the
other. This calls for more than a human nature and is based on the
hope of an lasting alliance, a lasting and true
It is an act of
poverty towards ourselves and an act of gift.
confidence is expressed by the exchange of consents : I receive you
as my spouse and give myself to you (Wedding's ceremony).
is sign for Christians of a serving Christ.
It is also what is
expressed by the Cross, which reveals a God that loves up to death
(what Christ means through the washing of feet).